Communication, consent and the best ways to explore together — a shame-free guide for all relationships.
Healthy intimacy is built on communication, trust and consent. Talking openly with your partner about what you enjoy — and what you don't — makes shared exploration safer and more enjoyable for everyone.
Consent is ongoing
- Consent must be freely given, enthusiastic and can be withdrawn at any time.
- Check in with each other before and during intimacy.
- Agree a 'pause' or safe word if you're trying something new.
- Never assume — ask.
Staying safe together
If either of you could become pregnant, consider contraception that suits you — there are many free options available on the NHS. Condoms are the only method that also helps protect against sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
If you're starting a new relationship, getting a free, confidential STI test at a sexual health clinic is a responsible step for both partners.
Ideas for exploring
- Sensory play — blindfolds, feathers and massage to heighten the senses.
- Couples' or remote-controlled toys for shared control.
- Massage candles and body-safe oils for foreplay.
- Take it slow and laugh together — intimacy doesn't have to be serious.
Where to get help
This article is for general information and is not a substitute for professional medical advice. Sexual health services in the UK are free and confidential on the NHS — including STI testing, contraception, and advice.
If you have symptoms, pain, bleeding, or any concerns, contact your GP or a local sexual health (GUM) clinic. You can find services and trusted information at nhs.uk.
Medical disclaimer
This content is provided for general information and education only and aligns with publicly available NHS guidance. It is not a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis or treatment. Always seek the advice of your GP, pharmacist or a sexual health clinic with any questions about a medical condition. In the UK, sexual health services are free and confidential — find them at nhs.uk.